by admin | 8 Nov, 2024 | Andrew's Blog, Mindset
We are living in trying times at the moment. The interest rates are rising, the cost of living is rising, and the amount of debt is rising, yet incredibly most people’s income is not. So, what do we do? For many people it is spending less, but in doing so, many people trap themselves in a cycle of survival, and never get to a thriving state. I am not just talking about money here. What if you truly understood the difference between cost and value? Would it make a difference?
I am suggesting it will help you to move beyond your circumstances to a state of thriving and abundance. I want to remind you of a very ethereal concept, and that is that every physical manifestation in your life is created from a thought, belief, or perspective you choose to focus on. In other words, the situations you are facing right now have far less to do with knowledge, ability, circumstances, luck, or other people, and far more to do with your thoughts, beliefs and perspectives. If you choose to believe me, and you understand that your outcomes in life are the result of your thoughts, beliefs, and perspectives, not any of the other things you may have been blaming, then you can create change in this instant.
Yes, this instant. How? Shift your thinking, and you immediately start yourself on a different path, to a very different outcome. I often talk about the time I was working seven days per week in two businesses and falling deeper into debt every day. I spiraled to $100,000 in debt. I think we can all agree that is an adverse situation. I was tempted to blame the economy, my lack of ability, the competition, and many other things that would shift the blame away from myself. Short term comfort maybe, but that mindset would have kept me stuck. So, rather than focusing on what I couldn’t do, didn’t have, and didn’t like, I refocused on how I wanted to live. That shift in focus sparked an idea and decision to write my first book. In that instant, my life changed. I immediately felt hope, I saw a path and I understood the difference between cost and value.
In basic terms, cost is what we pay for something (in time, money, attitude, or effort) and value is what it is worth. Far too many people, particularly in times of lack, look only at cost. They go for the cheapest, the thing that takes the least time or effort, and feel like they are making the wisest choice. What if, however, the thing that is the cheapest is the thing that will end up costing you much more down the track? For me, the decision to write a book was going to take time I didn’t really have. It would have made sense for me to just keep working hard on my personal training business. However, had I not invested valuable time in writing my first book, I would not be enjoying the freedom and joy I have today.
My health and wellbeing are important to me, and I hope for you also. Without it, I can’t do any of the things that are important to me to the level I desire. I eat well and have an extensive supplementation regime to ensure my body gets all the nutrients it needs for optimal wellbeing. I use a brand of vitamins and minerals that is at the higher end of the cost scale, but also at the top end of the value scale. They are organically grown, natural, and plant based, versus many products that are synthetically produced and much cheaper. This is an incredible example of cost versus value.
I know for a fact that the nutrients I take are far more readily absorbed into my body because they are in a natural state. In fact, 70-80% of the nutrients will be absorbed. In comparison, many products which are synthetically produced will have far less absorption because the body only allows natural foods into the blood stream. In most cases, only 10-20% of synthetic supplements will be absorbed, the rest will be eliminated and cause damage to the liver on the way out. If we were operating on a cost mindset, we might be tempted to buy the cheaper multi-vitamin from the discount chemist. Let’s say it cost $25 for the cheap and synthetic one, and $50 for the natural and organic one. You may think you are saving money buying the cheap one, right? But are you? What really is the cost of the cheaper product.
Firstly, $25 for 10-20% absorption versus $50 for 70-80% absorption. In other words, you will get 3 to 8 times more absorption by paying just twice as much for high quality and far greater value. Then, think of the cost on the body in removing the synthetic ingredients through the liver. What may be the cost of that, in terms of health recovery, down the track? I will leave that one for you to ponder. It is the same when we operate with a cost rather than value mindset to make decisions about clothes, mechanics, appliances, foods, education, personal development, where we invest our time, and many other things that you just can’t nickel and dime if you want to thrive and live an abundant life.
My podcast this week is called Just as you are with Louise Johnson. Louise is a burnout coach and suffered significant burnout in her job, which put her in hospital, by focusing on cost rather than value. It is a powerful conversation about the value we each have as individuals, irrespective of productivity. As you move forward from here and make decisions which will shape your life, please think carefully about what will help you live the life you desire and be very clear on how cost versus value will affect the life you ultimately experience.
by admin | 1 Nov, 2024 | Andrew's Blog, Mindset
It really isn’t hard to find your way around these days. There are signs everywhere, and if you follow them, you will end up where you want to be. If you don’t, you will end up where you end up. So, let me suggest, if you want to save time, energy, and live your best life possible, follow the signs.
I am great at giving amazing advice, at times however, not so great at following it myself! I think we are all guilty of not seeing and following the signs at times in our life, even when the path laid out is so clear and simple, and, the destination so predictable.
I woke up last Sunday in Sydney and decided to go for a run. I was staying very close to the harbour bridge and so I decided to see if I could run across it. I thought to myself, there must be signs that will direct me as to where to go and how to get there. So, off I went, and, in fact, it was not too long before I came across a sign pointing in the direction I needed to go to get to the harbour bridge walking/running path. Incredibly, I didn’t follow the sign. I looked at where it was pointing, and then I looked at the bridge, and erroneously thought to myself, there must be an easier way. Have you ever said that to yourself about something? How did it turn out? Probably the same way it turned out for me.
I took off in my direction, and came upon one dead end after another, until 15-20 minutes later, I finally came to my senses. I went back to that first sign I found, followed it and, surprise surprise, it took me directly to the harbour bridge path. There are really no surprises about that one, are there? As I was running across the bridge marveling at the incredible structure, and looking out over the breathtaking views to the Opera House and beyond, I thought to myself, why didn’t I just follow the sign in the first place?
I can’t give you a sensible answer to that question, just as I can’t give you a sensible answer to the same question about many other signs in my life. Signs like a café falling deeper into debt every day, leading to it spiraling predictably into a $100,000 deficit. Signs like a relationship in conflict that inevitably led to more than one divorce. Signs that are there every single moment of every single day that we either choose to follow, or not. I am here to say in no uncertain terms, follow the signs or be prepared for the consequences.
The consequence of taking an additional 15-20 minutes to find the Sydney Harbour Bridge path, is far from devastating, but many other signs we ignore will be potentially more than devastating. Ignoring the signs to do something about your health could mean the end of your life. Disregarding the signs that your relationship is in trouble could mean the end of that relationship. Overlooking the signs that you need to change your spending habits could lead to crushing debt. Closing your eyes to the signs that stress is an issue in your life may lead to a life-altering addiction. The signs all point somewhere, pay attention, and follow the signs that will lead you to where you want to go, and, don’t question them the way I have in my life.
You know what I mean, don’t you? You are aware of the signs that are right in front of your face, aren’t you? What if you follow the signs that lead you to eating better, more exercise, investing time in building relationships, in prayer, in meditation, in saving and investing your money, and in building a strong self-worth? Life would start to change pretty significantly, don’t you think? The signs are there in front of your face. You just need to open your eyes to see them, and then – and I am talking to myself here – actually follow them.
In my podcast this week with Benjamin Smith called, Life through the nose, we talk about the obvious signs that can help lead to optimal wellbeing using his Ultimate Health Model. As you look up from this blog and reflect on yourself and your life, what sign is right in front of your face that you have been disregarding to this point? Can I make a suggestion? Pay attention to it, think about where you are heading by continually ignoring it, and if you want something better, then start following it. You can have, do, and be anything you want. All you need to do is follow the signs.
by admin | 24 Oct, 2024 | Andrew's Blog, Mindset
Have you ever noticed that when something happens that affects more than one person, there will often be many different responses to that event or situation? Why is that? If it is the same event that all the people are looking at, how can it elicit multiple responses? The answer is simple; it’s not what you look at that matters, it is what you see that makes the difference.
Okay, so what does that mean? Let’s use a very well-known and over-used situation; COVID. It was the same pandemic that people all around the world were dealing with, yet there were multiple responses. There was anger, frustration, transformation, connection, disconnection, anxiety, fear, gratitude, creativity, and many other reactions. How can one pandemic, the same pandemic, create so many outcomes? Because each and every person saw something different in the same thing we were all looking at. For me, I initially saw what I had lost and could no longer do, which resulted in fear and anxiety. Then, upon reflection, I saw something very different. I saw a chance to recalibrate and re-assess who I was and what I was doing. I saw an opportunity to learn and heal from many hurts. I saw a different way to do business that was much more effective and enjoyable. I saw more time to focus on me, my faith, and the things I was always ‘too busy’ for. I saw joy and I saw gratitude.
These days when I look at things I am very aware of and deliberate about what I see. When there was conflict, I used to see someone else at fault and why it wasn’t fair. Now I see my part in the conflict and how I could improve my approach moving forward. When I missed out on getting a speaking gig or new client, I used to see frustration and anger. Now, I see an opportunity to improve my approach and find a better option. When I used to receive a speeding fine, I would see red; anger with myself and the system. Now, I see gratitude that there is a system trying to reduce traffic accidents and that I can actually afford to pay the fine. When I am deliberate, I can always see something that will enhance my life. So, by the way, can you.
It is fair to say we, as humans, have a tendency to spiral into victim and blame mode far too quickly. Whilst it may give some short-term comfort, it will never help us move forward in life. Victim and blame lead us to… STUCK! I know no-one wants to be stuck, so the only way we can keep moving is to change the way we look at things so we see what will lift and empower us in life. After I read in the newspaper, many years ago, that I was sacked from the St Kilda Football Club, I reacted with anger, blame, and a serious case of victim-thinking. I went and said some things I regret to this day and destroyed any chance of a future professional career with the club. STUCK! After some time and reflection, I looked again and saw freedom from a very stressful environment. I saw the chance to reconnect with the game I used to love. I saw an opportunity to join with an amateur club and a group of amazing men I played with for the next 12 years. I will be grateful for that time in my life for as long as I live.
So, my question to you is what are you looking at now, and most importantly, what do you see? If what you see is causing any angst in your life, I want to encourage you to try to see something different. In your relationship, could you see how you can make it better? With your health, can you see what you can do to get back to optimal wellbeing? Financially, could you see what options there are to gain strength in that area? In your career, can you see what would be required to take it to the next level. You can see all of these things if you open your eyes to really see what is possible.
In my podcast this week with world champion triathlete Jo King, called Baby steps, we discuss how something which looks overwhelming, can be seen as very achievable when we take baby steps each and every day. My greatest encouragement for you is to change the lens by which you are looking at things in your life. When you look at something that seems undesirable, unwanted, and adverse, change the filter. Trust me when I say, you will always find a lesson, a blessing, or an opportunity, if you are very deliberate. The reason is simple, it’s not what you look at, it’s what you see.
by admin | 5 Oct, 2024 | Andrew's Blog, Mindset
The word ‘perfection’ gets a bad rap, doesn’t it? Do you know how many books have been written about overcoming perfectionism? Me neither, but it’s a lot! Here are just some of the titles I found; The Gifts of Imperfection, How to Be an Imperfectionist, When Perfect Isn’t Good Enough, The Anxious Perfectionist, Never Good Enough, The Perfection Trap, Overcoming Perfectionism, The Joy of Imperfection, and the list goes on and on and on. What if perfectionism wasn’t the problem? What if the word ‘perfection’ was actually a valuable, empowering, and healthy word? What if all it took was to redefine ‘perfection’, and everything would change?
The current definition of the word ‘perfection’, as defined in the Cambridge Dictionary is; the state of being complete and correct in every way. I think it is fair to say that is an unrealistic, unachievable, and dangerous definition. If that is our aspiration, then we definitely need to read all of the books I listed above. However, if we can redefine ‘perfection’ then it could be a word, not to run from, but one to embrace.
This blog was inspired by a conversation I had with a fabulous client of mine. So, thanks Judie. She, like many people, suffer from what they feel is the affliction of perfectionism. She has been stuck on a chapter in the book she has been writing for some time and blamed her perfectionistic mindset for this situation. She even admitted to me that she is fully aware that perfection is not possible. So, I challenged her. It is true, may I add, that if the definition we are operating with is that we need to be correct in every way, then it is not possible. No one can be that, as much as they think they are or can be. However, what if we look at perfection in a different way?
I asked Judie, is there anyone who does you better than you do? She thought about that rather random question for a moment and said, No. Then, I continued, so, you are the perfect you. That doesn’t mean she is flawless and ‘correct in every way’, but she is the perfect Judie she can be. We then started talking about the chapter she was stuck in, and I explained that trying to edit and make a chapter ‘correct in every way’ when the whole manuscript is not yet finished is a frustrating and tail-chasing task. In other words, not possible. So, I said, why don’t we redefine ‘perfection’ and instead of ‘correct in every way’ we define it as ‘completed as best as possible’ for this stage of the manuscript. How does that sound? I asked. She agreed it sounded much better. So, we changed ‘correct’ to ‘complete’. With the newly defined ‘perfection’ in her mind, she excitedly set off to keep moving and complete the manuscript she had been working on for almost 12 months.
Where do you sit with the word ‘perfection’? I am grateful the need to be flawless and correct in every way is not a value for me. I am far more interested in progress than the soon-to-be-discarded definition of perfection. What about you? If this self-proclaimed affliction of ‘perfection’ is one that is holding you back, then I want to encourage you to redefine it. Let’s make ‘perfection’ something we should all aspire to. For me, perfection is doing and being the very best I can in any situation. For Judie, now, perfection is completing the first draft of her manuscript. Maybe for you, perfection is just being authentically you, no matter how that compares to other people or societal norms. Really perfection can be whatever you define it to be. When you redefine it, it can become a word to run towards, not away from, and it can help you live your very best life.
In my podcast this week called Popping in pink, I speak with the fabulous author, speaker, and transformational coach, Cherie Postill. I can tell you that Cherie’s definition of ‘perfection’ is living a life with enthusiasm and passion. It is a wonderful podcast not to be missed.
I don’t want to downplay the amazing books that have been written on this subject and the value they do add to people’s lives. I do want to encourage everyone, including myself, to challenge the norm, the stereotypes, and the definitions that we just seem to accept even though they do not serve us. The vilified word ‘perfection’ has been beaten up enough. Why do we have to believe and accept a definition that has held human beings back for so long? Why can’t we re-define the word? In fact, why can’t we redefine our lives? It is by redefining perfection that we can redesign our lives. Moving forward, embrace the word ‘perfection’ and give it the meaning that will help to take your life to a new level of joy, fulfillment, and abundance.
by admin | 21 Sep, 2024 | Andrew's Blog, Mindset
Every one of us is experiencing results in our lives. In each area of life; career, relationships, financial, wellbeing, spiritual, social and the others, we are currently getting results. Those results are either abundant and joyful, or lacking and frustrating, or at some point in-between those two extremes. No matter what your experience, or your outcomes, it is vital to understand and believe that your results reveal your self-talk.
I normally tell a story about the poor results I see occurring in my life, and, there are plenty of them. However, in this blog, I want to share what is great in my life and, therefore, what is possible for me and for you. The reality is that, if things are not going the way you want in any area of your life, before you start blaming other people and/or circumstances, examine your self-talk. The answer will be there, trust me.
As you are reading this, I am in Bali, and I have just turned 60 years of age. Of all the things I am most proud of, at this stage of my life, I am most gratified by my health and wellbeing, and the joy with which I live my life. That doesn’t mean I don’t have challenges or bad days, but it does mean I have got something right. Yay me! So have you, by the way. At the age of 60, I love that I am lean, fit, healthy, energized, and excited about the next stage of my wonderful life.
For many years, since my days as a professional athlete, I have prioritised my fitness, my nutrition, my mindset, and my wellbeing. Over the years, I have had people tell me I am lucky that I have good genetics. I have been told that is easy for me because I was an athlete. I have many people justify to me why they have not and could not live the same kind of a life. I believe I am blessed, but I am not lucky. I make good choices deliberately every day. These days my routines make it predictable for me to stay in shape, but by no means is it easy. As for the justifications and excuses of others, all they need to do is examine their self-talk and they will find that they are fully responsible for the results they are currently experiencing.
This may be hard to hear, but it is very true. As I examine my own self-talk when it comes to my wellbeing, this is what I say to myself, consciously and unconsciously:
I am healthy, lean, strong and energised. I move my body, and prioritise my nutrition every single day, no matter where I am or what I am doing. I love the feeling of being optimally healthy as it helps me live my best life and be a positive role model to others. My wellbeing is the foundation of my best life, and I always make time for it. I love feeling fit and fabulous.
This is just the beginning, and if I were to examine my unconscious mind, I know I would discover even more powerful affirmations I say to myself. I identify as healthy, I live healthy, and I inspire others to live healthy. On the day I left for Bali, I was picked up at 6:15am to get to the airport. It would have been a very understandable justification, because it was so early, missing a day of exercise would be okay. However, my self-talk and identity moved me to get up at 4am to do my training anyway. I am so glad I did, and I am grateful for my self-talk in this area.
Don’t get me wrong, I wish my self-talk was as powerful in other areas of my life. The good news is that it can be, as it can be for you. It will just take some time, focus, attention, and action, and you can become anything and anyone you want. The first step is to acknowledge that you are fully responsible for every result you are experiencing in your life. Whilst you may not always be in control of what happens, you are in 100% control of how you respond and what you do as a result. That, my friend is self-talk.
Once you have taken responsibility, then you need to look at your current results and decide which one you want to change. Examine your belief systems and self-talk in that area, it will always explain the results. For example, if you are always in debt, you may be telling yourself you are not good with money, or you don’t deserve abundance. That is why you are in debt, not because of the cost of living, interest rates, or you don’t get paid enough. It is 100% self-talk.
Create a new vision for how you want it to be, start affirming that you are deserving and abundant, start taking positive action, and watch how your life changes. In my podcast this week with Sally Jimson, called A very different day, we discuss how a simple shift in self-talk and actions can transform your day and life. It is a wonderful conversation with a positive and passionate lady.
Enough from me. I am heading back to the pool for some chill out time. I want to tell you again how amazing you are and how much potential you have, to do more in your life. Just look at the results you want to get, start affirming what you want, and begin acting like the person who would. You can do this. Just remember, results always reveal self-talk.
by admin | 13 Sep, 2024 | Andrew's Blog, Mindset
One of the most damaging words in the English language is the word ‘success’. To be fair, it’s not actually the word that is so damaging, but more so the definition that society has attached to the word. Therefore, if it is the definition of the word ‘success’ that is damaging many lives, and I believe it is, then, in my mind, the solution is simple. We just need to redefine the word, ‘success’.
Here is the definition of the word ‘success’ from some common and accepted sources:
- The Cambridge Dictionary: The achieving of the results wanted or hoped for.
- The Merriam Webster Dictionary: Favourable or desired outcome. The attainment of wealth, favour, or eminence.
- The Collins Dictionary: The achievement of something that you have been trying to do.
I could go on and on here, but there is really no point because every other definition, in a round-a-bout way, says exactly the same thing. Damaging! Why is this so damaging? You may be asking as you are striving for your own ‘success’ in life, whatever that may be. Damaging because this definition is an unattainable one, and keeps people chasing, striving, and achieving to find the ultimate meaning in life, only to discover it is never the result of achievement.
Don’t get me wrong. I am not saying it is not important to chase, strive, and achieve in life. What I am saying is that to attach success, joy, and meaning to an outcome, will leave you feeling unfulfilled and always seeking and searching. If this was not the case, why are there so many people who make it to the very top of their profession, even become rich and famous, yet end up depressed, unhealthy, suicidal, and divorced? The obsession to achieve, so built into Western society, causes people to chase accumulation in a fashion that means they often neglect the most important things in life. Whilst they may get where they are aspiring, they are rarely happy when they do. Why? Because we have been duped into believing a damaging and irresponsible definition of success.
How do I know this? For me, whilst I never defined it for myself, success was feeling loved, validated, and important. My mistake was believing it would come from success in external achievement. I worked obsessively to make it at the top level of professional sport for seven years, and even so, often wondered why I never felt loved, validated, and important. I trained like a maniac to get a body I thought would impress people, and still wondered why I never felt loved, validated, and important. I overworked and rarely slept to make money in multiple businesses and, every day wondered why I never felt loved, validated, and important. I thought the achievement would bring the success I was seeking. It never did.
If you are relating to what I am saying here, then you may be wondering how to achieve this seemingly elusive success. It’s actually not elusive at all. The secret is to redefine it, and if you do, every moment of every day will deliver the love, validation, and success you were created to enjoy. I am a Christian, and at the risk of alienating myself here and losing you, there are some things I now believe that totally fly in the face of damaging societal beliefs. One of those things is the definition of success. We already know what the normal measures of success are. So, what is this Christian belief? Whether you are a Christian or not, this definition of success I encourage you to adopt. What I know as a Christian is that God loves me for who I am, not what I do. He could not love me anymore by working harder and achieving more in life. So, my success is my existence.
Do you get that? You are a success, you are a winner, you are important, you are amazing because you are here. Anything you choose to achieve or not achieve in your life does not change that. So, I want to encourage you, right now, to disconnect the words success and achievement from each other. They are not related, they are not congruent, and they are not the keys to your joy and happiness. What is? It is knowing deep in your heart that you are good enough just because you are alive. When you truly believe and feel that, you will accomplish more in life than you ever thought possible.
My podcast this week is a great one with Andy Reid. It is called Success curious. Andy discusses the mental health challenges he experienced, as many do, in the headlong pursuit of the wrong type of success. They came from trying to live up to the expectations that were placed on him. He also discusses the freedom that has come from letting go and just enjoying the joy that life has to offer him as he travels the journey of life. As you finish reading this blog and move into your day, I want to encourage you to look at yourself in the mirror and know, beyond any shadow of doubt, that you are good enough and successful enough just as you are. Start the process today of redefining success.
