Why do we resist change so much, when there is only one thing that doesn’t change? Do you know what that one thing is? The only thing that never changes is the fact that everything changes. The one and only constant in our lives is that change did happen, is happening, and will keep happening. That being the case, wouldn’t it be a good idea to learn how to embrace change, and even thrive through change?

There are two types of change that confront all of us. There is the change that we may not deliberately choose that just happens as we journey through life. Things like; COVID, the weather, losing a job, someone else’s decision and actions, and other things we may not seem to have any control over. The second type of change is the one we deliberately decide to embark on, and then do what is required. Like when you decide to change careers, take charge of your wellbeing, or resolve conflict in your life. Whether the change you are facing is forced upon you, or decided on by you, trust me, it is always good.

Yes, I did say always good. You may be asking, how can sickness be good, losing a job be good, losing money be good, a pandemic be good, or some other adverse situations be good? That is a wonderful question. The answer is just as wonderful, if I do say so myself. Because, the change that comes as a result of the scenario, can be a blessing in your life, if you choose it to be. The circumstance is not the most important factor, it is how you respond and what you do as a result of the circumstance which will determine whether the change is great, or not so great. If you can go into every situation with the mindset that you will thrive through this changing landscape, then, you will.

One of the most adverse times I experienced was when, as a result of working seven days per week in two businesses, I found myself in $100,000 debt. I felt helpless, hopeless, and lost. What I didn’t realise, as I was having my pity-party, was that situation was going to be the catalyst for the most profound and positive change in my life. If not for being in that deep poo-poo, I don’t believe I would have ever stopped to visualise how I wanted to live my life, nor made the decision to write my first book. That seemingly devastating situation led to a decision that changed my life for the better in every way.

Lose a job, find a better one. Lose your health, make the changes that will lead you to optimal wellbeing. Lose money, learn the lessons and do it better the next time. Experience conflict, become more empathetic and a better communicator. Lose a client, understand what to do better next time. Get dumped, find the right person in your life. Can you see how every change, that seems out of your control, can be the catalyst for something much better in your life? Again, I say, it’s not what happens to you that will determine your life, instead how you respond and what you do as a result of what happened. That being the case, change is always in your control.

Often the out-of-the-blue occurrences are not out-of-the-blue at all, but instead the predictable outcome of the unconscious beliefs and habits you have. Sickness doesn’t just happen. A relationship doesn’t all of a sudden fall apart. Rarely do you lose a job or a client for no reason. It is almost always based on your choices leading to the point that things seem to just fall apart. Again, if that is the case, you can decide right now to change direction and create positive change in your life that will take you on the upward curve to optimal health, strong relationships, a meaningful career, and financial strength. You are in control and can thrive through any kind of change.

When you are born with a cleft palate, endure more than 20 surgeries by the time you are 18, have an alcoholic father, experience a car accident where people are killed, then spiral into a ten-year battle with addiction, change can seem like the hardest thing you can even comprehend. Well, in my podcast this week with Marcy Langlois called The mind re-set, this was her life. When I asked her what she is most grateful for about her challenges, she told me she was grateful for all of them. She explained that they helped her change and become the person she is today, and they have given her the ability to make a positive impact in many lives.

Here is the deal. Every single day of your life, you are going to experience or choose some kind of change. If it is thrust upon you, embrace it, learn from it, respond to it, and thrive through it. If it is a positive change you choose, embrace it, love it, commit to it, and predictably you will thrive. No matter what happens in your life or what decision you make, ensure that you thrive through the inevitable change.