Let me tell you what is you. You are incredible. You are good enough. You have amazing potential. You have endless capacity. You have an abundance of love to give. You are incredibly loveable. You are capable. You are resilient. You are passionate. You have been created for greatness. Whatever you believe in conflict with any of these things, is not you.
I have some fantastic people in my life who I love dearly. I’m so grateful to have all of them in my life. I’m sure you feel the same as me, when I say, I wish some of them believed about themselves the same way I believe about them. In the same way, I know, at times, I may be lacking in self-belief, when I know other people have incredible belief in me. At times, more than I have in myself. With all the things I could focus on, and all the things you could focus on, why do we choose to focus on the things that are really not us?
The other day I was sitting with an incredibly important person in my life who is going through a serious health challenge. Whilst the condition was having a significant impact on her physical health, I knew as we spoke, it was her mindset and belief system that needed most attention. I’ve quoted many times from Craig Groeschel’s book, The Power to Change. In it he says, you do what you do because of what you think of you. This is such a powerful concept, playing out in every single person’s life, and the outcomes experienced depend on one thing. That is, what you think of you.
As I was talking to this beautiful human, I could hear the fear in her voice, the doubt about herself, lack of self-worth, anger towards her family and even God. As the words were coming out of her mouth, all I could say to her is, ‘this is not you’. I know this person to be a positive, passionate, empathetic, loving, compassionate, holistic, healthy, and very spiritual human. However, with everything happening in her life, she had been overcome by negative thoughts, damaging self-talk, and lies.
All I could do was remind her of the amazing person she is, the love and support she has around her, and a God who loves her and can heal. She knows this stuff, however, she had let the lies start to take over her thinking, and her life. Don’t we all do that at times? Don’t we all spiral into doubt, fear, and insecurity at times? I know I certainly do. What I now know is, whenever I’m thinking poorly of myself, doubting myself, or questioning whether I’m good enough, I know enough to stop myself. I know that’s not me.
What is me, is a loving, caring, empathetic, compassionate, resilient, resourceful, creative, purposeful, and passionate human being. I am a child of God, and I am loved beyond measure. That is my truth and all the stuff that contradicts that is 100% lies. I know that now. I know who I am, and I know who I am not, and I choose to focus on who I am. I encourage you to do the same.
Remember, you do what you do because of what you think of you. That means, if you think you’re good enough, think you’re worthy, think you are created for great things, then you will do what you need to do to create an incredible life for yourself and others. However, the flipside is also true. If you doubt yourself, if you think you’re not good enough, if you think you can’t do it, or that people won’t accept you or love you for who you are, then you will act in a way that supports those lies. The result of this is a life that you’ll end up regretting. That’s not what you want, that’s not what I want, so focus on who you are and know when to say, that’s not me.
In my podcasts this week, I have amazing conversations with two wonderful humans. I speak with Nate Turner in a podcast called Lawnmower, rake, and shovel. I also talk with Jodi Gonzales in a podcast called Creativity is your Compass. Both will help you focus on who you really are; someone who is wonderful, worthy, and always welcome. This week, I urge you to spend some time reflecting on what actually is you, and what definitely isn’t?