What stops me? Have you ever asked yourself that question? I sure have, and still do. It is my guess that the thing that stops me is the same thing that stops you. Stops you and me from what? From anything and everything. There is a simple answer to why you are not where you want to be in different areas of your life, and the great news is there is also a simple solution. If you are ready for the answer and solution, keep reading.
Now let me just say this: you may not want to hear the answer because it removes excuses, and we like our excuses, don’t we? So, if you are ready for some necessary discomfort, then keep reading. I want you to cast your mind back to something you regret. Think of something you didn’t complete, gave up on, or feel like you failed. Not a very uplifting way to start a blog, is it? However, I want to make a point. When I think about myself, I can think of a myriad of things that fall into the category of regret, disappointment, and failure. From getting sacked as a professional footballer, to three divorces, to losing more than $100,000 in poor business and investment decisions, and so on.
I hope my failures make you feel better about your own! When you think about these events, what is the reason why it didn’t give you the successful outcome or experience you wanted? When I got sacked, I blamed the club, the coaches, my lack of ability, and my limited physical prowess. With my marriages, I blamed my partner, my business, my childhood, and my own lack of awareness. With my failed business and financial ventures, I blamed the economy, my advisors, my lack of time, and my location. How did you go? As I look back on all of these things, I can see that none of those reasons are valid, because there is a logical response to each one. I won’t go through them now; however, I believe you will find the same with your own regrets, disappointments, and failures. The simple reality is that I was responsible for each occurrence, simply because I didn’t think I could.
In my professional footballing career, even though it lasted seven years, I never believed I was good enough to make it at the highest level and stay there. With my marriages, I didn’t believe I was worthy of love or could keep a relationship. For some reason, I have had a scarcity mindset with money and didn’t believe I could make it and keep it. I kept saying to myself, I don’t think I can. The result was; I created exactly what I expected, and that was failure. It was a self-fulfilling prophecy. Do you know what I am talking about? If you are relating to this, and feeling stuck, you simply need to change your expectancy. Instead of saying no, I can’t, say, yes, I can! Honestly, it is that simple.
Watch things change in your life when you start saying, Yes, I can! For me, the only reason an ex footballer with no time, background, qualifications, experience, or clue about the process, could become a best-selling author was because I simply believed I could. This is how the brain works; when you say I can’t, it looks for all of the evidence to support why you can’t. Then, with overwhelming evidence against success, you give up. On the flip side, when you say, I can, your brain goes to work to find all past experiences and evidence to support why you are good enough. As a result, ideas, solutions, and belief comes flooding in and, off you go to achieve great things that many may believe impossible. All you have to do is say, Yes, I can.
At the age of 58, I love doing things that many think are crazy or impossible. I just seem to get a buzz from that. For me these days, it’s not an ego thing like it used to be, it’s simply because I just believe it is possible for me. I think I can, so I just get to work, and I do. The same is possible for you. Start saying yes, I can, to everything. Now, that doesn’t mean you will achieve everything, but trust me, you will achieve so much more than you ever thought possible. It doesn’t have to seem logical, or even possible, but when you say I can, and get started, the logic and possibility will begin to appear.
In my podcast this week with Kathy White, called Win the day, we discuss all the amazing things that are possible for you and your wellbeing when you simply decide, I can, and you get to work each day to take action, and then celebrate. I spend every day of my life telling me and others that they can have, do, or become anything they aspire to, and I am saying it again to you. But what I say to you doesn’t matter, it’s what you say to yourself. From today onwards, with everything you want in life, say to yourself, Yes, I can.