Our emotions can be our best friend or our worst enemy … do you know what I mean? Positive emotion drives us to do things that may seem impossible and to help us achieve incredible success in life. Negative emotion can stop us, distract us, betray us, deceive us, limit us and … even kill us. We often feel as if we don’t have any control over our emotions, but the great news is that you and I can regulate and use our emotions for good … not evil.
There are no accidents in life ...
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Andrew Jobling started out as a passionate but clueless footballer. With a vision of and obsession about a long and lucrative professional football career in mind, little time was left to consider other insignificant things in life … reading,
Andrew Jobling started out as a passionate but clueless footballer. With a vision of and obsession about a long and lucrative professional football career in mind, little time was left to consider other insignificant things in life … reading, academics and education.
After being beaten around the head many times and in pain for most of his football career he decided to launch into in the health & fitness industry. After all the abuse he received from heartless fitness trainers in his professional sporting career, it was payback time! He has spent almost 30 years passionate about helping people with their health and wellbeing.
In 2002 he made, what appeared to be, an illogical and irrational decision. At the time he was running two businesses, working 15 hour days and 7 days per week. He had a personal training business that was putting money into his bank account and café that was taking it straight back out again.
Nevertheless, with no qualifications, background, ability or time he decided to write a book!
With a powerful message he wanted to convey, committing small pockets of time to writing each day and with a strong desire to get it done, two years later Andrew was holding his first book Eat Chocolate Drink Alcohol and be Lean & Healthy in his hands. He is still puzzled but immensely grateful as to how it actually happened. He has since gone to write six published books (with many more coming) and two e-books.
That seemingly accidental decision catapulted his career into a completely different direction and put him on a wonderful path as an author, speaker and author mentor. He now passionately spends his time writing, speaking and helping people all around the world to believe that, no matter how unlikely something may seem, with desire, decision and daily action ... anything is possible!.
Andrew jokes that he is an Accidental Author, but the truth is he believes that, whilst some things are unlikely, there really are no accidents in life;
‘We create our destiny by dreaming bigger than most people would think reasonable, by believing in ourselves more than most people would think sensible, by making decisions that most people would think illogical and continuing to act way beyond the point that most people would have given up.'
Andrew's Blog ... the question is; can a footballer write and speak?
I don't know about you, but this doesn't look like an author and writer to me ... or most people!
Andrew loves writing and talking! This would sound strange to anyone who knew his background ... it certainly wouldn't suggest that a literary career would be on the cards. He was a typical footballer with a typical attitude towards reading & education ... a waste of hours between each opportunity to play sport! He truly is an accidental author, speaker, writer and blogger!
He is passionate about helping others and through writing he feels able to reach more people. His books, videos & blog posts are all about helping people see, believe and fulfil more of the amazing potential they have ... that means you too! There is incredible possibility & potential in every person and there is an amazing impact through the power of written word.
Please enjoy Andrew's blogs (video and written) and please feel free to add any comments you see appropriate.
According to author Barbara Aria, who writes widely on family-related topics, the average toddler hears the word ‘no’ an astonishing 400 times … every day! Wow!!! That’s a whopping 2800 times each week and – oh my goodness – 145,600 times each year! By the time the average child is ten years old, they would have been told ‘no’ over one million times! Okay, from what we know about self-talk and the programming of the unconscious mind … what impact do you think hearing the word ‘no’ one million times, by the age of ten, will have on a child?
I categorically do not have a green thumb! I have a green cap, green eyes, a green face after a hard training session … but not a green thumb. As much as I love a nice garden I’m not a gardener’s big toe! Laura is! She loves spending time pottering in the garden and she has created a beautiful haven for us to enjoy … for that I’m grateful. The issue arises when she goes away … which is quite frequently these days. She spends weeks at a time in Bali working on her wonderful bag designs and asks a favour of me, each time, which I dread … to look after the garden! Do'h!
As you well know, life is all about choices. Sometimes it may seem like things that happen are out of your control but, trust me when I say … you and I choose exactly what we get from life. I’m just as vulnerable to other people’s comments and actions as anyone. I can get as sooky and victim-minded as anybody when circumstances don’t go the way I’d like. The thing I’ve realised and I want to make abundantly clear to you is … you get to choose how you handle anything that confronts you. You can do as I’ve done many times … blame others, pass responsibility and have a tantrum. If you do that, you probably already know it’s not a sound long-term solution. Alternatively, you can try something different. Rather than getting bitter, angry and upset … why not decide to get better?
You’re going to laugh at this … during the week I was thinking about what I wanted to write this blog about, and I sat there for what seemed an eternity … scrunching up my face and putting pressure on myself to come up with an inspiring subject. I was thinking, thinking and thinking some more! Then I stopped thinking and it came to me … I’m writing a blog about how we think that thinking is helping us but in many cases our thinking turns into over-thinking and we think ourselves right into a corner. Often, it’s when we stop thinking we allow ourselves to come up with the answer that we’ve been thinking so hard about … I think! If you kept up with my train of thought then I think you are thinking the right way … that is, not too much!
Let me say before I even start this blog … I’m not a morning person! I get up early every day despite that fact. On reflection, when I decided to become a personal trainer, I didn’t really think that one through!! It wasn’t the optimal career choice for a non-morning person. I started as a trainer back in the later 1980’s and I’ve been happily retired for the last ten years, yet I still get up early every day. Why? Firstly, after 15 years of 5 am starts, I couldn’t sleep in … even if I wanted to! Secondly, getting up early and making the most of the morning is the one thing I can credit for providing me with a life I love. I attended a seminar last weekend and one of the things the speaker said was … 'While the world sleeps, the high performer works'. Her message was to take advantage of the hours when you are most in control of your day and … win the morning!
I love life! Every day brings another opportunity to learn, to grow, to create and to move closer to your purpose in life. I’m currently reading a wonderful book called ‘Love & Respect’ by Dr Emerson Eggerichs … a section in it has inspired this week’s blog. Before I talk about what he discusses in this particular section of his book, I want you to consider the results you’re currently getting in your life … whether that be financial, your career, your relationships or your health & wellbeing. If you had to describe those results in a word … would say you’re getting; lemons or lemonade, roses or manure, pearls or red-eyes? Can I be so bold as to suggest that the results you’re getting are not because of the things you may think? The chances are they are the result of your inner self-talk and how you process the things that happen to you.
We were all born to be amazing. We all have something very special inside of us that is meant to be shared with the world. We all have the capacity to do great things. We are on this planet for a very specific and powerful reason. That being the case … why do such a tragically small number of people ever let their greatness out for the world to be impacted by? I think the key word is … BELIEF! Belief is not something that grows on trees and it’s not something you can buy. The good news is, belief is something you can develop and it starts by being … loud and proud!
This blog was inspired by a thunderstorm … not a dog dressed in pink, purple and yellow! There is, however, a dog involved in this story … our dog Mr Big. He may come across as cool, nonchalant, independent and feisty … deep down, however, he is a big scaredy-cat! When we have guests he runs and hides. When it rains he gets anxiety attacks. I’m sure you can imagine what happens when there is thunder and lightening! He immediately turns into a shivering, vibrating and terrified lump of jelly! He is petrified!
Have you ever watched an Indiana Jones or a James Bond movie? We all have watched at least one … haven’t we? In every one of these movie's there is a similar scene. You know the one … the door closing and the hero has to get through it or under it, before it closes, or they will die. It’s a life or death situation and, in every case, they just make it through with only seconds and millimeters to spare. They sprint, they slide and they make it through to freedom because the alternative is not an acceptable option. 2017 is upon us and I want to make a suggestion that can help you get the most of this new year and hence your life. Treat every day, every decision and every goal as if … the door is closing.
When you imagine a door closing, it’s a simple visualisn’t it? The question is … are you living your life knowing that the door is closing and fully aware that once it’s closed, it’s closed. The door closed for great singer, songwriter and record producer George Michael on Christmas Day 2016. He passed away at the tender age of 53 … he was so young, but he made the most of every day. He lived his life as if the door was closing and he slid underneath it time and time and time again.
It’s a crazy time of the year … hitting last minute deadlines, shopping, planning, entertaining, celebrating, socialising and general holiday season mayhem. It can also be a time when we wish we had more time, more money, more friends, a better job, more support and less stress … right? What I want to encourage you to focus on at this time of the year … no matter how, and if, you celebrate, is all the wonderful things you have to be thankful for.
It’s so easy to get caught up in all the things you should’ve done and didn't do so well with. It’s all too common to spend your time worrying about how busy you are, how little time you spent with your family and how more money would’ve made life easier. I know it can be hard to not focus on the bills you have to pay, the challenges you have in your job or business, the relationship issues you have to deal with and the fact that your health isn’t as good as you would like it to be. Do you know what I mean?