Every couple of months I listen to a speaker who starts his talk the same way. He asks the audience how they are and often gets a mixed response. He then says, ‘did you know that today all around the world nearly 150,000 people didn’t wake up this morning? So, now again I ask … how are you?’ As I’m sure you can imagine, he gets a much more enthusiastic response the second time! It’s a great reminder that, no matter what is happening in our lives, we are alive and have much to be grateful for.
Life can seem complex and, more than ever, we are confronted with challenges, stresses, adversity and uncertainty. There is less financial stability than ever. There are more health issues than anytime in history. The incidence of divorce is higher than it has ever been. Depression, anxiety and mental issues are rampant. Our time is getting hijacked by urgent things leaving less time for what’s most important in our life. It’s a crazy time and if we’re not very deliberate and very focussed it could ruin what should be a glorious, joy-filled and purpose-driven time on this earth.
There are no accidents in life ...
Andrew Jobling started out as a passionate but clueless footballer. With a vision of and obsession about a long and lucrative professional football career in mind, little time was left to consider other insignificant things in life … reading, academics and education.
After being beaten around the head many times and in pain for most of his football career he decided to launch into in the health & fitness industry. After all the abuse he received from heartless fitness trainers in his professional sporting career, it was payback time! He has spent almost 30 years passionate about helping people with their health and wellbeing.
In 2002 he made, what appeared to be, an illogical and irrational decision. At the time he was running two businesses, working 15 hour days and 7 days per week. He had a personal training business that was putting money into his bank account and café that was taking it straight back out again.
Nevertheless, with no qualifications, background, ability or time he decided to write a book!
With a powerful message he wanted to convey, committing small pockets of time to writing each day and with a strong desire to get it done, two years later Andrew was holding his first book Eat Chocolate Drink Alcohol and be Lean & Healthy in his hands. He is still puzzled but immensely grateful as to how it actually happened. He has since gone to write four published books (with two more coming in 2016) and three e-books.
That seemingly accidental decision catapulted his career into a completely different direction and put him on a wonderful path as an author, speaker and author mentor. He now passionately spends his time writing, speaking and helping people all around the world to believe that, no matter how unlikely something may seem, with desire, decision and daily action ... anything is possible!.
Andrew jokes that he is an Accidental Author, but the truth is he believes that, whilst some things are unlikely, there really are no accidents in life;
‘We create our destiny by dreaming bigger than most people would think reasonable, by believing in ourselves more than most people would think sensible, by making decisions that most people would think illogical and continuing to act way beyond the point that most people would have given up.'
Andrew's Blog ... the question is; can a footballer write?
I don't know about you, but this doesn't look like an author and writer to me ... or most people!
Andrew loves writing! This would sound strange to anyone who knew his his background ... it certainly wouldn't suggest that a literary career would be on the cards. He was a typical footballer with an typical attitude towards reading & education ... a waste of hours between each opportunity to play sport! He truly is an accidental author, writer and blogger!
He is passionate about helping others and through writing he feels able to reach more people. His books & blog posts are all about helping people see, believe and fulfill more of the amazing potential they have ... that means you too! There is incredible possibility & potential in every person and there is an amazing impact through the power of written word.
Please enjoy Andrew's blogs and please feel free to add any comments you see appropriate.
I had an epiphany last week. I had been allowing myself to get frustrated and I was blaming other people. You know what it’s like, don’t you? You feel like people let you down. You get cranky because they don’t do what they say they’ll do. You are paralysed because you feel like they control your next moves. Well, I was feeling all of those things … until it dawned on me. The only person in control of my destiny is the same person looking back at me in the mirror!
For too long I’d been missing certain goals and not achieving desired results because, in my mind, other people weren’t doing what they were supposed to do … actually they weren’t doing what I wanted them to do! The truth is they weren’t doing and would never do what I wanted them to do … they were doing what they wanted to do! Yet, I kept getting more and more frustrated until something inside me finally snapped and … I got angry! Not angry with anyone in particular, but angry with the situation … angry that I’d allowed other people - doing what they were always going to do – to dictate my life.
Why are we so serious? Why do we make such a big deal out of relatively small things? Why do we create stress and anxiety out of things that we should really just laugh about? Why do we have such trouble making basic decisions and taking simple actions to ensure that we live an amazing life? I would like you to consider trialling a different approach to life … just for today. Just for one day, I want to encourage you to treat your life and everything that happens as a game.
Have you ever played Chess, Checkers, Monopoly, Pool or any other fun game? Of course you have. I haven’t played Chess before but I know many people who love it. Here is, what I imagine would be a common scenario and … I’d ask you to consider which of the responses you would choose:
I’ve heard it so many times … ‘It’s not about the destination, it’s all about the journey.’ But I never believed it … I mean who wants the pain, suffering and discomfort that comes with the journey? I just want to be there …holding that trophy, lying on that beach with a cocktail in my hand, married to that hottie, holding my published book and having money in the bank. Don’t you? Well, after many years, I have finally come to understand and believe that … it’s absolutely all about the journey!
I had a day last week that was one of those days! You know the ones, when nothing goes right … in fact when everything goes wrong? That was, right up until the end of the day when I met an inspiring young lady who turned my whole day around and gave me a fresh perspective on my day, my life and … the journey.
not logic. We might try to pass it off as a considered decision and back it up with facts, reasoning and logic, however … we are emotional beings continually looking to gain positive feelings or avoid negative ones. You and I have done it before. We’ve emotionally spent money we didn’t really have, on something we really didn’t need … haven’t we? We then justified very logically why it was an essential purchase. I mean, that 62 inch flat screen TV was the only thing that fit that large blank space on the wall …wasn’t it? And, my eyesight is starting to fail so the largest TV screen available is essential … right? The reality is that it was emotion, nothing more, that motivated the purchase.
Feelings are with us all the time and are directing our lives. We often blame them for the things we do and the outcomes we experience. Have you ever blamed being upset for not wanting to go out to that seminar to learn about better health or improved business strategies? Have you ever used your bad mood to justify why you spoke poorly to your spouse, your business partner or your employee? Have you ever let lethargy stop you from going to the gym, writing your book or making those necessary phone calls?
The universe is amazing! I really don’t understand how it works … but it has the power to deliver to us what we give our focus and attention to. This can be either desirable or undesirable … depending on what we focus on. I do however think we, as humans, sometimes look for the easiest of options and only listen to and believe part of the truth. Many watched the documentary movie ‘The Secret’, got excited, started focussing on & affirming what they wanted … yet wondered why it still wasn’t happening for them.
I have to admit that, embarrassing as it is, I was one of those people. I wanted money and as a result of watching ‘The Secret’, I started repeating the affirmations … ‘unexpected cheques arrive in my mail’, ‘money flows abundantly and continuously into my bank account’ and ‘I am wildly wealthy and successful.’ Now, don’t get me wrong … there’s nothing wrong with these affirmations. My mistake was naively believing that, just repeating the affirmations, would result in money magically appearing in my life. I was deluded because I was missing the most vital ingredient of the process … action!
Why are we so heavily influenced by other people’s opinions? Why do we let other people cause us to second guess ourselves and our decisions? Why do we often let others determine the things we do and the life we live? What makes them right anyway? Why are we so hesitant to trust ourselves, our intuition and the decisions we make? It’s time to take a stand. It’s time to believe in yourself, your dreams and your goals. Know deep in your heart, and say to them in your head, … “I’m right, you’re wrong!”
I’m very excited that I recently received a contract to have my sixth book accepted for publication. It is my fourth publisher and I believe it’s my best book yet. However, in the process, I had to overcome the opinion of another publisher I submitted the manuscript to. It was someone whom I respected which made a rejection even tougher to take!
Have you ever done a jigsaw puzzle? Did you know that the life you want is just like a jigsaw puzzle? There are many many pieces that make up a jigsaw puzzle … the most important being the picture on the box. Can you imagine trying to put a 1000-piece jigsaw puzzle together without the picture? It would be a painful and frustrating process. Similarly, without a clear picture of what you want, putting your ideal life together will be a painful and frustrating journey.
There is, however, more to it than just having a clear picture of what you want. The key to get ‘the key’ to open the door to a successful life requires work on the one person who can make it happen … you!
It’s a new day, a blank page and a fresh start … if you choose it to be. The world is an exciting place of adventure and opportunity when we allow ourselves to believe. The challenge for many people – maybe even you – is that often the beautiful view of possibility in our future is clouded by the adversity, mistakes or failures of the past. You can’t drive forward whilst continually looking in the rear vision mirror. Now’s the time to get excited about a new day, clean the slate, draw a line in the sand and enjoy a new beginning.
There was a big angry brown grizzly bear stomping through the woods looking hungrily for his next meal when he was seduced by the most delicious aroma wafting through the air. He followed his nose and it led him to an unattended camp site. The mouth-watering smells were coming from a large pot bubbling away on an open fire. The bear couldn’t control his urges and he went to see what was for lunch.
Imagine this scenario … you’re trapped in a room with no doors, no windows and enclosed by four seemingly insurmountable and impenetrable brick walls. Outside of this room is the person you care about most in the whole world ... their life is in danger. You have only 15 minutes to get to them or you will never see this person again. What do you do? Do you sit down and cry? Do you complain that life isn’t fair? Do you stomp around and have a hissy fit? Or do what it takes to get through the brick wall and get to this person?
We all know the answer to this question … don’t we? We would focus, we would chisel, we would climb, we would scratch, we would claw and no matter what … we would get out, over or through that brick wall to save the person we care about most.