We have two beautiful dogs … both are Maltese Shitzu’s and both are very different. Mr Big is black, Joia is white. Mr Big is old, Joia is young. Mr Big can’t stop eating, Joia won’t start. Mr Big is tubby, Joia is tiny. Irrespective of their differences we love them both. Currently, Laura is away and has been for several weeks … I’ve been left alone as a sole parent! I thought I was doing a good job … until earlier this week when I realised I still have a lot to learn. I’m talking about dogs here! Cudos to everyone who has children of the two legged variety … I respect you a lot! I’m still trying to work out how to parent fluffy four-legged kids!
I have written too much about Joia already, and I even wrote an ebook about her called ‘Joia – Living a life of joy through the eyes of a pup’. GIFT - I’m grateful that you’re reading this blog, and as a ‘thank you’ … I’d like to gift you a FREE copy of the ebook. If you want a copy please click here. In this blog, however, I’m not going to write about Joia, but about Mr Big ... he taught me a powerful lesson this week.
There are no accidents in life ...
Andrew Jobling started out as a passionate but clueless footballer. With a vision of and obsession about a long and lucrative professional football career in mind, little time was left to consider other insignificant things in life … reading, academics and education.
After being beaten around the head many times and in pain for most of his football career he decided to launch into in the health & fitness industry. After all the abuse he received from heartless fitness trainers in his professional sporting career, it was payback time! He has spent almost 30 years passionate about helping people with their health and wellbeing.
In 2002 he made, what appeared to be, an illogical and irrational decision. At the time he was running two businesses, working 15 hour days and 7 days per week. He had a personal training business that was putting money into his bank account and café that was taking it straight back out again.
Nevertheless, with no qualifications, background, ability or time he decided to write a book!
With a powerful message he wanted to convey, committing small pockets of time to writing each day and with a strong desire to get it done, two years later Andrew was holding his first book Eat Chocolate Drink Alcohol and be Lean & Healthy in his hands. He is still puzzled but immensely grateful as to how it actually happened. He has since gone to write four published books (with two more coming in 2016) and three e-books.
That seemingly accidental decision catapulted his career into a completely different direction and put him on a wonderful path as an author, speaker and author mentor. He now passionately spends his time writing, speaking and helping people all around the world to believe that, no matter how unlikely something may seem, with desire, decision and daily action ... anything is possible!.
Andrew jokes that he is an Accidental Author, but the truth is he believes that, whilst some things are unlikely, there really are no accidents in life;
‘We create our destiny by dreaming bigger than most people would think reasonable, by believing in ourselves more than most people would think sensible, by making decisions that most people would think illogical and continuing to act way beyond the point that most people would have given up.'
Andrew's Blog ... the question is; can a footballer write?
I don't know about you, but this doesn't look like an author and writer to me ... or most people!
Andrew loves writing! This would sound strange to anyone who knew his his background ... it certainly wouldn't suggest that a literary career would be on the cards. He was a typical footballer with an typical attitude towards reading & education ... a waste of hours between each opportunity to play sport! He truly is an accidental author, writer and blogger!
He is passionate about helping others and through writing he feels able to reach more people. His books & blog posts are all about helping people see, believe and fulfill more of the amazing potential they have ... that means you too! There is incredible possibility & potential in every person and there is an amazing impact through the power of written word.
Please enjoy Andrew's blogs and please feel free to add any comments you see appropriate.
So, what are morning pages? They are pages that you write in the morning … funny about that! There is something about taking all of your thoughts, concerns, ideas, fears and busyness out of your head and putting it down on paper. It’s a great way to cleanse, download and de-clutter your mind and, with that newly cleared space, is the best way to start each and every day.
Let me tell you, if you don’t already know … it can get very busy inside my head. You wouldn’t want to get stuck in there … it would be a bit like being stuck on a round-about in Mumbai with cars, elephants, bikes, people, cows and people in every direction! This internal busyness makes life difficult. It’s hard to focus, hard to enjoy the moment and hard to see a clear path forward. It wasn’t until someone recommended that I started doing ‘morning pages’ that this all started to change.
extraordinary must mean even further below par! I think we should delete that definition of the word … agree? Here’s how I want you to think of the word … If you are ‘ordinary’ at the moment – and by ordinary I mean you feel you are just getting by – then to be exceptional takes just a little bit extra. Extraordinary is a word that reflects the simplicity of being being exceptional by just doing a little bit more than you’re currently doing.
Having said that, I’m now going to say some thing that, whilst is meant to help you, may be confronting. Are you ready? … You currently have in your life what you’ve permitted for yourself. You will either aggressively agree or disagree with that statement … either way and disturbingly I have found it to be true. Everything undesirable I have experienced in my life can be tracked back to a thought process I chose and a course of action I permitted for myself. I would challenge you, no matter how much you hate me right now, to do the same.
The other day I was having a dilemma. I was torn between two options for a project I’m currently working on and, for the life of me, I couldn’t make a decision. After a period of mental tug-o-war and trying to force a decision, I’d had enough. I went into my bedroom got undressed, got dressed again into my running gear (shame on your dirty mind!!) … then I went for a run. After a short while of pounding the pavement … clarity came and the decision was made.
I kept on running, feeling good about myself, and for some reason my mind wandered back to my days as a footballer … I started laughing! Back in the eighties, there was always one solution for any issue … jog it out! ‘Hey coach, I’m cramping in my calf … what should I do?’ ‘No worries son … just jog it out!’ ‘I have a sharp painful stitch … how should I get rid of it?’ ‘Stop being soft and just jog it out!’ ‘My leg is sore, my glutes are tight and I’m feeling a bit faint … should I rest?’ ‘Toughen up kid and … jog it out!’
I’m currently listening to the Beach Boys singing Good Vibrations. Who knew they were so wise in the ways of the universe? Who knew they had been communicating the secret of success and happiness, through this song, since 1966 when it was released … I just thought it was a catchy tune. I think probably many of the people dancing to and enjoying the song back in the 60’s and 70’s weren’t fully aware of the powerful message it was communicating either. They were undoubtably too distracted by the fun they were having and the interesting substances they were experimenting with!
I’m not going to get into a science lesson here, and I’m probably not going to explain this very well either … but I’ll give it a go. The universe detects and acts on vibrations. Every living thing vibrates and those vibrations ripple out into the universe … the universe then responds to those vibrations and sends back experiences to match. Does this sound weird? Does this sound a bit out there? Do I sound crazy? It does, it is and I am, but … it’s true!
Are you anything like me? I’m a throw-mud-against-the-wall-and-see-what-sticks type of guy. For much of my life I’ve lived with the attitude of she’ll-be-right … just hoping that everything will work out. To a certain extent it did, but I finally got to the point when I decided I didn’t just want things to work out … I wanted to create an abundantly amazing life. Are you with me? Organisation and preparation were never strong points as I flew through life by the seat of my pants! Then one day I decided to get organised. I decided to write a list of all the things I needed to do to get my S#@T together. I’m an all or nothing kind of guy and so I’m sure you can imagine the list I created for myself.
I’d always heard that writing a list of the things you need to do is an important part of being successful in life. I also knew heard that the list needed to be split into categories … ‘important’, ‘urgent’, ‘delegatable’, ‘removable’. So, I made a list - boy did I make a list … it was about three pages of things I felt I needed to do. The problem was … in my mind everything on the list was important and urgent!
I love the word ‘perspective’ … it’s a cool word. Yep, I am a nerd!! I love the way it sounds and I love the way it can change my life when I’m aware of it. When I’m able to see things from a different perspective … life, wellbeing, relationships and success take on a whole different meaning. Do you remember the last time you got angry with someone for something they said or did? Then you told them so … in no uncertain terms? How did you feel afterwards? Now, think about that same interaction and put yourself in the other person’s shoes … how does it feel to be spoken to that way? See what I mean?
I recently had an experience that got me thinking about perspective. Now, I do need to preface this story with the fact that I’m not quite normal … and proud of it! I wear a pedometer to measure my steps and I have a very strict goal - every day - to not go to bed until I have done at least 10,000 steps. There’s nothing overly unusual about that. The slightly interesting part comes each morning as I take my dogs for a walk.
Inspiration comes from all around us. Ordinary people dealing with daily challenges, doing the best they can and striving for a better life … are often the source of the greatest inspiration. I was at a business seminar on Tuesday night and, in the last few minutes, an amazing lady came up to share a few ideas and insights. I will soon tell you a little about her story, but it was the last thing she said during her short impact statement that resonated with me the most and inspired this week blog. She said, ‘we’re not born winners and we’re not born losers … we’re born choosers!’
That’s an incredibly powerful statement if you can truly understand it and own it. In other words … your circumstances don’t define you, what you choose to do with those circumstances is what you will be remembered for. It’s so easy to blame our circumstances for our lack of success or being a ‘loser’ … isn’t it? It’s too easy to say, ‘I was born into a poor family so I didn’t have any chances to get ahead.’ Be careful not to catch yourself saying, ‘If it wasn’t for the global financial crisis my business would have been successful.’? And then there’s the old favourite, from my years of personal training, ‘I can’t help putting on weight as I have thyroid issues.’
When I was in year 12 at school, for some inexplicable reason, I selected Chemistry as one of my subjects. I remember sitting in the first class for the year thinking … ‘what am I doing here?’ I would have much rather been playing football! I somehow stuck it out for the year and barely scraped through with a pass. I walked out of the last Chemistry class thinking, ‘what a waste of time …I’ll never use any of that information again in my life.’ Well, as happens pretty frequently … I was wrong.
I did learn something and interestingly it’s not something I would ever apply in the chemistry field but absolutely into my life. In fact, I’m so excited about this chemistry concept I want to share it with you. Are you ready for a chemistry lesson that will change your life if you apply it? We are talking about change … and in chemistry terms, two types of change can occur.
Why do we resist this as a concept? Why do we try so hard to be rebellious? Why do we think we are being smart, clever or cool by going against the rules? So many people, including myself at times, struggle in life and don’t truly understand why. It’s really not that difficult … there are no secrets to health, wealth and happiness. There should be no surprises either. It’s incredibly simple and predictable … if you play be the rules you will get what you want, if you don’t you will get what you deserve.
It amazes me when I see people arguing with parking officers for getting a parking infringement or with police officers for getting issued a speeding fine. They complain and disagree when it’s simple … they parked illegally or they were driving above the speed limit and as a result they were fined. We all know that if we don’t play by the rules there will be a consequence … if we don’t like the consequence then we need to play by the rules!