When I was in year 12 at school, for some inexplicable reason, I selected Chemistry as one of my subjects. I remember sitting in the first class for the year thinking … ‘what am I doing here?’ I would have much rather been playing football! I somehow stuck it out for the year and barely scraped through with a pass. I walked out of the last Chemistry class thinking, ‘what a waste of time …I’ll never use any of that information again in my life.’ Well, as happens pretty frequently … I was wrong.
I did learn something and interestingly it’s not something I would ever apply in the chemistry field but absolutely into my life. In fact, I’m so excited about this chemistry concept I want to share it with you. Are you ready for a chemistry lesson that will change your life if you apply it? We are talking about change … and in chemistry terms, two types of change can occur.
There are no accidents in life ...
Andrew Jobling started out as a passionate but clueless footballer. With a vision of and obsession about a long and lucrative professional football career in mind, little time was left to consider other insignificant things in life … reading, academics and education.
After being beaten around the head many times and in pain for most of his football career he decided to launch into in the health & fitness industry. After all the abuse he received from heartless fitness trainers in his professional sporting career, it was payback time! He has spent almost 30 years passionate about helping people with their health and wellbeing.
In 2002 he made, what appeared to be, an illogical and irrational decision. At the time he was running two businesses, working 15 hour days and 7 days per week. He had a personal training business that was putting money into his bank account and café that was taking it straight back out again.
Nevertheless, with no qualifications, background, ability or time he decided to write a book!
With a powerful message he wanted to convey, committing small pockets of time to writing each day and with a strong desire to get it done, two years later Andrew was holding his first book Eat Chocolate Drink Alcohol and be Lean & Healthy in his hands. He is still puzzled but immensely grateful as to how it actually happened. He has since gone to write four published books (with two more coming in 2016) and three e-books.
That seemingly accidental decision catapulted his career into a completely different direction and put him on a wonderful path as an author, speaker and author mentor. He now passionately spends his time writing, speaking and helping people all around the world to believe that, no matter how unlikely something may seem, with desire, decision and daily action ... anything is possible!.
Andrew jokes that he is an Accidental Author, but the truth is he believes that, whilst some things are unlikely, there really are no accidents in life;
‘We create our destiny by dreaming bigger than most people would think reasonable, by believing in ourselves more than most people would think sensible, by making decisions that most people would think illogical and continuing to act way beyond the point that most people would have given up.'
Andrew's Blog ... the question is; can a footballer write?
I don't know about you, but this doesn't look like an author and writer to me ... or most people!
Andrew loves writing! This would sound strange to anyone who knew his his background ... it certainly wouldn't suggest that a literary career would be on the cards. He was a typical footballer with an typical attitude towards reading & education ... a waste of hours between each opportunity to play sport! He truly is an accidental author, writer and blogger!
He is passionate about helping others and through writing he feels able to reach more people. His books & blog posts are all about helping people see, believe and fulfill more of the amazing potential they have ... that means you too! There is incredible possibility & potential in every person and there is an amazing impact through the power of written word.
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Why do we resist this as a concept? Why do we try so hard to be rebellious? Why do we think we are being smart, clever or cool by going against the rules? So many people, including myself at times, struggle in life and don’t truly understand why. It’s really not that difficult … there are no secrets to health, wealth and happiness. There should be no surprises either. It’s incredibly simple and predictable … if you play be the rules you will get what you want, if you don’t you will get what you deserve.
It amazes me when I see people arguing with parking officers for getting a parking infringement or with police officers for getting issued a speeding fine. They complain and disagree when it’s simple … they parked illegally or they were driving above the speed limit and as a result they were fined. We all know that if we don’t play by the rules there will be a consequence … if we don’t like the consequence then we need to play by the rules!
I don’t really know the story of the Lone Ranger and I’ve never watched the movie. But his name suggests that he likes to do things on his own … agree? My guess - and I’m sure someone will correct me if I’m wrong - is that at some point the Lone Ranger realised he couldn’t do everything he wanted and needed to do on his own. He probably had to come to terms with an ego that told him he was weak if he asked for help or couldn’t do it alone. He finally, through neccessity, found support and I’m guessing it was Tonto who made all the difference to the Lone Rangers success in life.
I have an ego, you have an ego … we all have an ego. That ego can help us, but in many cases it is no help at all … in fact it harms us. My ego is constantly telling me that I should be good enough to do it alone and not need help. My ego is telling me that it’s a sign of weakness to ask for help. My ego is unforgiving and harder on me than any other person in my life. I can tell you that dealing with an over-inflated ego is stressful, unsatisfying, unfulfilling and potentially a lonely way to live.
An automatic pilot is a good thing! It takes control of the plane if and when anything should happen to the pilot(s). It’s role is to be a safety back-up and to help keep the passengers, crew and plane safe in the event of an emergency. An automatic pilot is programmed to take the plane to the desired destination. If however, the automatic pilot is incorrectly programmed, it doesn’t matter where you want to arrive … the plane will take you where it has been set to go.
Did you know that you have an automatic pilot? It’s inside your head and it’s flying you in the direction that you are currently heading. You may be conscious or unconscious of it. You may be happy where it’s taking you or not. You may feel that you have no control over your automatic pilot … but you do. You program it … so make sure you control the input of the parameters to move you in the direction you want to go.
Coming up with a relevant and useful blog each week is a challenge. There are times, like this week, when I’m incredibly grateful for the people who actually read and get value from my weekly contribution ... not only that, they give me ideas! This week I had some very welcomed help and I want to thank Ross for sending me this cool picture and title which has inspired this weeks blog. How true it is … all of my problems are in definitely my head!
When Ross sent me this picture with the caption, it really got me thinking about my life. As I reflected on my life - past, present and future – I can see what has held me back, is holding me back and will hold me back is nothing more than a thought process. One that I can change … in a heartbeat! All I have to do is change the thought ‘I can’t’ to ‘I can’. I just need to determine that ‘I will’ rather than ‘I won’t’. I only need to believe ‘I do deserve’ instead of ‘I don’t deserve’. I need to swap the idea that ‘I don’t have time’ to ‘I will prioritise the time’. Honestly … it really is that simple!
The ‘domino principle’, the ‘butterfly effect’, ‘small things speak volumes’. No matter what you call it or how you describe it … it’s a powerful law of the universe! Small things you do have a ripple effect that will impact many lives for many years. We often do and say things we don’t really think about. We rarely understand the potential we have or how the things we do, good and bad, will ripple out and impact many lives. Maybe it’s time to start thinking about it.
I had one of these mind-blowing experiences that started to ripple last Friday. I have no idea where it may lead or how massive it may turn out and … it all started with a simple gesture. I was flying to Brisbane last Friday and I was sitting in the back row of the plane … I do it all the time because I often get the whole row to myself. This time was no different, so I stretched out.
We have recently and sadly lost one of the most successful athletes and celebrated people of all time. Cassius Clay aka Muhammad Ali was a legendary boxer who didn’t just change the face of that sport, but also the way it has become acceptable to talk about ourselves and affirm success. Well before he was known in the sport, he started spruking … telling himself and everyone he forced to listen, that he was the greatest boxer of all time. He told Michael Parkinson in a famous interview in the 1970’s that he was greatest boxer there was, has ever been and will ever be. Michael Parkinson sat there with a stunned look on his face and said, ‘I’m not going to argue with you!’ Muhammad Ali replied with a cheeky grin on his face, ‘You’re not as dumb as you look!’
Was Ali the greatest of all time? Well, I’m not even going to go there! That’s a can of worms I’m not willing to open. Some would say yes and others would disagree … either way, it’s actually irrelevant. What is important and what I want to communicate to you in this week’s blog is that … he believed he was the greatest. As a result of that belief … he performed in a way which enabled him to do things that many, with a lower belief level, could never do or would never believe was possible.
I’m talking a lot about movies lately. This week, I want to refer to one called ‘For the love of the game’, with Kevin Costner. In the movie he plays Billy Chapel, a successful but ageing pitcher for the Detroit Tigers baseball club. He is at the tail-end of an illustrious career, is becoming plagued by injuries and consequently missing games. He finally gets himself fit again and selected for the most important game of the season. He starts the game well and, about half way through, has had no runs scored off him at all. With each innings he pitches with no runs scored … the rare occurence of a ‘no-hitter’ is becoming more likely. A ‘no-hitter’ is when a pitcher completes all nine innings with no runs scored for the entire game … it’s an extra-ordinary achievement.
As he gets into the latter stage of the game his shoulder injury is starting to flare up, he is beginning to tire and doubt starts creeping into his mind. He begins thinking about his age and stamina. He starts to worry whether his shoulder will hold up. He becomes very aware of all the noises around him … the trains, the crowd and the players. He can start to clearly hear opposition supporters yelling profanities at him, he starts losing confidence and … he loses focus.
is the best thing to have! Life is way too short to spend time doing things that are no fun. I’m passing a new law … if it’s not fun, make it fun or change it so it is fun!
As I think back over my working life I can see a very common thread … if it wasn’t fun, I didn’t last very long. I was very fortunate to be involved in professional sport from the age of 16 years old and so, even as a student, I was making money doing what I loved … playing football. When my professional football career was over, I needed to look for a j-j-j-j-j-j-j-o-o-o-o-o-b-b-b-b … it’s a hard word for me to say!!
Every couple of months I listen to a speaker who starts his talk the same way. He asks the audience how they are and often gets a mixed response. He then says, ‘did you know that today all around the world nearly 150,000 people didn’t wake up this morning? So, now again I ask … how are you?’ As I’m sure you can imagine, he gets a much more enthusiastic response the second time! It’s a great reminder that, no matter what is happening in our lives, we are alive and have much to be grateful for.
Life can seem complex and, more than ever, we are confronted with challenges, stresses, adversity and uncertainty. There is less financial stability than ever. There are more health issues than anytime in history. The incidence of divorce is higher than it has ever been. Depression, anxiety and mental issues are rampant. Our time is getting hijacked by urgent things leaving less time for what’s most important in our life. It’s a crazy time and if we’re not very deliberate and very focussed it could ruin what should be a glorious, joy-filled and purpose-driven time on this earth.