I have good news and bad news! The good news is… you are unique, you are special and you are the ‘perfect’ you. The bad news is… you are not perfect. But then, you knew that, didn’t you? I certainly know it about myself. These imperfections we have are what make us human… they are, however, possibly impacting our lives in some way, shape or form. So, we can stick our head in the sand and ignore it, we can accept and put up with it or… we can deal with it and do something about it!
There are no accidents in life ...
It's no accident that you stumbled across my website!
Something you may or may not even understand directed you here. What was it?
Do you want more from life? Do you know deep inside you can be doing more than you are? Do you feel something is missing? Do you have a desire but feel unsuited, ill-equipped or unqualified?
If that's you ... I know how you feel. If you're anything like I was ... you are ambitious, have a big vision but feel that you lack the skill, ability, contacts, experience, finances and know-how to make it happen.
I felt that way as a skinny, sooky little kid when I dreamed of playing professional football ... how did I do it?
I felt the same way as work-obsessed, time poor, ex-footballer, non-reader and non-writer when I decided to write a book ... how did I become a best-selling author?
I learned that being successful is not what I thought it was about. It's not about ... time, talent, age, experience, background or any of the other things most people believe are required for amazing success. What I found was ... when you want something badly enough, you follow some simple principles, you act every day and decide to finish what you start ... you can do anything. No matter how unlikely it may seem.
Please look around my site, enjoy my blogs, attend my events and see what resonates with you. I would love to help you with your wellbeing, becoming a successful author or anything you want to achieve but feel that it's out of your reach. Just know it's not out of reach and you can achieve ... your success will be no accident.
‘We create our destiny by dreaming bigger than most people would think reasonable, by believing in ourselves more than most people would think sensible, by making decisions that most people would think illogical and continuing to act way beyond the point that most people would have given up.'
Andrew's Blog ... the question is; can a footballer write and speak?
I don't know about you, but this doesn't look like an author and writer to me ... or most people!
Andrew loves writing and talking! This would sound strange to anyone who knew his background ... it certainly wouldn't suggest that a literary career would be on the cards. He was a typical footballer with a typical attitude towards reading & education ... a waste of hours between each opportunity to play sport! He truly is an accidental author, speaker, writer and blogger!
He is passionate about helping others and through writing he feels able to reach more people. His books, videos & blog posts are all about helping people see, believe and fulfil more of the amazing potential they have ... that means you too! There is incredible possibility & potential in every person and there is an amazing impact through the power of written word.
Please enjoy Andrew's blogs (video and written) and please feel free to add any comments you see appropriate.
If you spoke to your friends and family the way you often speak to yourself… how would those relationships be? Estranged, conflicted or over… I’m guessing! Why do we often default to beating ourselves up? Why do we call ourselves incredibly derogative names for the most unintentional and often insignificant of indiscretions? Have you ever misplaced your keys? Who hasn’t? We all do it and we always find them… right? So, why do we launch into a tirade on ourselves about how stupid, idiotic, absent-minded and useless we are? Then when we do something great, and are complimented, we often play it down or give reasons why it wasn’t that special. Do you relate? Does this sound like you?
A chalkboard stood in the middle of New York City for one full day. At the top of the chalkboard was written; ‘WRITE YOUR BIGGEST REGRET’. People from all walks of life passed by the chalkboard ... many looked at it, some stopped to stare at it and a few started writing on it. After a period of time, the board became full with many statements, and it was obvious that there was a very common theme. Most people didn’t regret things they had done or mistakes they had made … instead, the majority regretted what they hadn’t done. They wrote about; chances not taken, words not spoken and dreams never pursued.
We have all been a victim of the green-eyed monster of jealousy or envy at some stage in our life … haven’t we? You may have become a horrible green-eyed monster, jealous or envious of someone else’s accomplishments … I know I have. On the other hand, you may have been the victim of someone becoming a green-eyed monster towards you because of your achievements or aspirations. It was William Shakespeare, in his play 'Othello', who wrote, “O, beware, my lord, of jealousy! It is the green-eyed monster which doth mock The meat it feeds on.”
Our emotions can be our best friend or our worst enemy … do you know what I mean? Positive emotion drives us to do things that may seem impossible and to help us achieve incredible success in life. Negative emotion can stop us, distract us, betray us, deceive us, limit us and … even kill us. We often feel as if we don’t have any control over our emotions, but the great news is that you and I can regulate and use our emotions for good … not evil.
According to author Barbara Aria, who writes widely on family-related topics, the average toddler hears the word ‘no’ an astonishing 400 times … every day! Wow!!! That’s a whopping 2800 times each week and – oh my goodness – 145,600 times each year! By the time the average child is ten years old, they would have been told ‘no’ over one million times! Okay, from what we know about self-talk and the programming of the unconscious mind … what impact do you think hearing the word ‘no’ one million times, by the age of ten, will have on a child?
I categorically do not have a green thumb! I have a green cap, green eyes, a green face after a hard training session … but not a green thumb. As much as I love a nice garden I’m not a gardener’s big toe! Laura is! She loves spending time pottering in the garden and she has created a beautiful haven for us to enjoy … for that I’m grateful. The issue arises when she goes away … which is quite frequently these days. She spends weeks at a time in Bali working on her wonderful bag designs and asks a favour of me, each time, which I dread … to look after the garden! Do'h!
As you well know, life is all about choices. Sometimes it may seem like things that happen are out of your control but, trust me when I say … you and I choose exactly what we get from life. I’m just as vulnerable to other people’s comments and actions as anyone. I can get as sooky and victim-minded as anybody when circumstances don’t go the way I’d like. The thing I’ve realised and I want to make abundantly clear to you is … you get to choose how you handle anything that confronts you. You can do as I’ve done many times … blame others, pass responsibility and have a tantrum. If you do that, you probably already know it’s not a sound long-term solution. Alternatively, you can try something different. Rather than getting bitter, angry and upset … why not decide to get better?
You’re going to laugh at this … during the week I was thinking about what I wanted to write this blog about, and I sat there for what seemed an eternity … scrunching up my face and putting pressure on myself to come up with an inspiring subject. I was thinking, thinking and thinking some more! Then I stopped thinking and it came to me … I’m writing a blog about how we think that thinking is helping us but in many cases our thinking turns into over-thinking and we think ourselves right into a corner. Often, it’s when we stop thinking we allow ourselves to come up with the answer that we’ve been thinking so hard about … I think! If you kept up with my train of thought then I think you are thinking the right way … that is, not too much!
Let me say before I even start this blog … I’m not a morning person! I get up early every day despite that fact. On reflection, when I decided to become a personal trainer, I didn’t really think that one through!! It wasn’t the optimal career choice for a non-morning person. I started as a trainer back in the later 1980’s and I’ve been happily retired for the last ten years, yet I still get up early every day. Why? Firstly, after 15 years of 5 am starts, I couldn’t sleep in … even if I wanted to! Secondly, getting up early and making the most of the morning is the one thing I can credit for providing me with a life I love. I attended a seminar last weekend and one of the things the speaker said was … 'While the world sleeps, the high performer works'. Her message was to take advantage of the hours when you are most in control of your day and … win the morning!